No gender: why men become women. Genderless: Why Men Become Women A New Turn: A Story from the Life of a Transgender

Trans women are women. Do this over and over and over.

What is a woman? A woman is a person who identifies as a woman. What does it mean to identify yourself “as a woman”? For each person, this means something different. Each self-identified woman can put her own unique meaning in the concept of “woman” - unless its definition is based on ideas about reproductive biology associated with sexual dimorphism, which is a social construct. A woman is not the same as a female person, because some female people are men, male people.

Renowned transactivist Lemon Zinnia Jones convinces us that trans women are not "male"

But at the same time, trans women have a female gender, and trans men have a male gender. Because the gender of women is by definition female, and trans women are women. Female and male sex are not biological categories that determine the reproductive characteristics of an organism, because there are no unambiguous, specific signs by which this gender could be identified. And even if they existed, we shouldn't have named them, because to designate a certain category of people using a term based on a common physical characteristic for them (tall, diabetic, brunette) erases their humanity and completely reduces them to this characteristic ...

"Feminists who exclude trans women, by and large, admit to seeing women as walking vaginas. You know, how sexist."

Trans women are women. Trans women are female people. Transmen are men. Transmen are male people. Repeat this several times.

The concept of “woman” is defined in its own way by every person who identifies as a woman - unless she associates this concept with reproductive characteristics or forcibly imposed sexual stereotypes - complex rituals of personal care, impractical clothes, crippling shoes. These are all optional. expressions belonging to the female sex, and not a feature by which women can be distinguished - a category of people for which there is no universal feature common to all.

The concept of “woman” is also not defined by femininity, that is, a set of learned behaviors that are imposed from birth on the owners of the uterus based on their reproductive characteristics: compulsory emotional service, constant teeth biting, feigned helplessness, currying favor with men. This behavior is literally imposed by threats of violence on people with uterus in order to ritualize their eternal submission to people with penises and maintain male dominance over women. But for people with penises, this may be an optional expression that they are women - members of a group that has no common objective characteristics.

Renowned transactivist Riley Dennis convinces us that gender is
it is a social construct

Review of covered material: trans women - women! Trans women - people female! The concept of "woman" does not imply any specific characteristics and definitions, other than identifying with an indefinite category of people, also called female - a word that also has no specific definition. Sexual stereotypes imposed on people capable of bearing offspring in order to ritualize their submission to people, to bear incapable - optional shape expressions belonging to this category.

There is only one category of women, clearly defined as a class of people who share common physical characteristics and experiences; and everyone - with the exception of the damn turfocks - knows full well that they are not despicable front-hole owners.

Trans women are women and trans women are female, however female women cannot be trans women.

All people can be women. All people can be female. All women, including those with penises, can be transgender. Woman, female person, trance are all categories that everyone defines for themselves, they are devoid of any universal meaning, definition or shared experience or physical characteristics. People who identify as women can also identify as trance. But only women born with dick and eggs form a single class of women, whose common biological traits and experiences must be named and protected.

You will attach the meaning to words that regal penis carriers will tell you!

Gender matters, but only when it comes to people whose humanity matters: men.

[For a correct understanding of everything else: the term AFAB (assigned female at birth, "assigned female at birth") among transgenderists is used to refer to biological women - because cunning theories are creepy theories, and biology and experience of men and women are different, and this constantly has to be somehow reflected by those who likes to teach us that there is no biological sex, and there is no common female and common male experience.

AMAB, respectively, is used to refer to men.

Fem serves to refer not to feminists, as one might think, but to people with a feminine representation - both women and men.]

The transactivist warns: “I warn you that one of the largest FB groups for non-binary people
bans anyone who disagrees that AFAB fems can be trans women ”

A series of tweets from the same transactivist:
"I've seen a few trans women get banned for refusing to accept it, and a few selfie threads about gender attributed at birth."

"Be careful when joining these groups. There are LOTS of bullers to entertain in exciting marginalized spaces."

"Is this my gender group?" changed its rules to add a ban on preventing AFAB people from identifying as trans women. "

"They also say that disagreeing with them is transphobia, that it's just in no way. This is a completely unacceptable way for non-binary to try to cope with the feeling that they are 'not trance enough'."

"If you are AFAB and your identity is in the 'female' group, there are many words to describe it, but 'trans woman' is NOT one of them."

Someone asks the question, "So this is a case of internal or intergroup shit caused by AFAB people deciding that for some reason they might not consider trans women?"

The same transactivist: "Yes, exactly. And to talk about preventing the identification of oneself as a woman is transphobic and reminiscent of a tarfock."

"Ridiculously ridiculous."

"I don't understand something? Why is a non-binary person with a bias in femininity not entitled to the name trans woman? It feels like I missed something."

"Because if anyone can be a trans woman, how are we going to separate them? By birth sex?"

"But this is not any? We are talking about non-binary?"

"This is not their term, they cannot take it."

"'Trans woman" is a specific definition that describes women who suffer from transmisogyny. This is the default gender assigned at birth. "

"I even know a lot of non-binary people with males at birth who use this term because of all the dynamics, health problems, discrimination, etc."

If you are a man and want to shock your colleagues, all you have to do is show up for work in a dress. If you are a woman and want to completely ruin the lives of the people around you, just grow a beard. We're talking about how people desperately cling to gender roles, and those who go beyond the established framework become ugly in the eyes of others. No one knows this better than a transsexual.

We spoke with Roman Jones, a transgender and American expat living in the Czech Republic. And this is what he told us ...

1. Your daily routine is getting terribly complicated.

When your main goal is to dress so that your body looks very different from what it does, rushing is not for you. I could write entire books about this process. First, you first need to hide your breasts, for which you pull it with special slimming clothes. Many transsexuals use elastic bandages for this, but this can cause a lot of problems because they push all the fat directly onto the belly, causing the skin on it to become flabby. The resemblance to Sharpei does not appeal to me at all, so I use a sports bra in an old-fashioned way. You might be surprised, but the right sports bra can turn Christina Hendrix into Justin Bieber.

Next comes the attachment of a penile prosthesis, which is very similar to the real one. Many of us love to wear them simply because we feel more confident that way. Therefore, they are often purely cosmetic. But sometimes they function more or less like real members, equipped with devices for urinating and even simulating an erection. Modern technology never ceases to amaze. I just received such a thing. She's gorgeous. It is a pity that I cannot meet with the creators of this device to shake hands with them.

Then the turn of the clothes comes, and at this moment a real miracle happens. Several layers of loose clothing help to hide female forms. Those with large buttocks must wear shaping shorts or trousers. You can also insert shoe inserts to appear taller without high heels. That's right, women aren't the only masters of optical illusion. Finish your look with a big, tattered coat and an ugly hat, and voila, you're Eminem.

2. Dating is almost impossible

When you are just in the process of changing external sex characteristics, you occupy an ambiguous place between men and women. Surprisingly, I learned from my own experience that homosexuals are especially cruel to those who are not like them. It would seem that they should be more tolerant, because they themselves are often discriminated against. But no. Believe me, I myself am terribly disturbed by the female genitals, but it was unpleasant to hear from them more than once in my address "a freak with two holes." On the other hand, straight men will not touch you either, because you are too assertive, which can scare homophobes. Oddly enough, traditional women are more likely to meet trans men, but it doesn't help if you're attracted to guys. Basically my only options are other trans men or trans-friendly bisexuals.

Because of the oppressive loneliness and feelings of worthlessness that can result from this struggle, trans men can often become aggressive as if this is the best thing they can do. Fortunately, my story has a happy ending: I met my fiancé, another transgender man. And we met very trite - at work. Who knew that anything could happen like this?

3. The level of medical care is terrible

Reconstructive plastic surgery is not always included in the plans of the person changing the sex. If you do decide to have an operation, then, studying the question, you will find so much frightening information that you will think twice if you need it. I wish I had a real working phallus, but the reality is too terrifying. Although treatment standards have increased significantly in recent years, the rate of complications from phalloplasty is still absurdly high. And there's a good chance that your new organ won't even work. I think I'll stay with my hardware prosthesis for now.

Even breast removal surgeries (mastectomies) can be done incorrectly and can lead to "delightful" things like nerve damage and drooping nipples. I do not understand why this operation, which is usually performed without complications in women with breast cancer, is so difficult for transmen. We are at the highest risk of developing health problems and even suicide. Trans men are more likely to have ovarian cancer. This issue was raised in a documentary about transgender man's fight against disease, Robert Eads, after he could not find a single doctor who would agree to treat him.

This is all very scary, because in the transgender male community, they don't like to talk about health problems. A last-minute visit to the doctor is so feminine! Yes, gender roles that are hammered into the brain follow you to the ends of the earth. We are also more likely to remain unemployed because people react to us in a very strange way and do not want to hire. This means that we do not receive health insurance.

There is a huge black market for things like testosterone. I won't tell you where he is because I can't afford to pay a lawyer. But the substance that you can find there can really wake up the animal inside you. Especially the horse. Fortunately, my fiancé can get testosterone free of charge through the public health care system in the Czech Republic, and until recently I was not able to use such opportunities. Without insurance, I couldn't even visit my doctor as often as needed. Nevertheless, things could have been much worse, because ...

4. In some countries it's even worse

It is incredibly difficult for a transgender person in the US to find a doctor who will even see him for routine medical examinations, let alone advise on transition issues. Even if you find someone, you may be denied access to hormones or denied surgery if, for whatever reason, they decide that you are "not trance enough." Trans-friendly doctors do exist, especially in the big cities, but too many of us don't even have time to find them - due to the appallingly high rates of suicide and violence against transgender people in the United States. I once read an interview with an American doctor who said: "I would like to treat more trans people, but they continue to die without getting to me."

This is why I initially decided to move to Canada. But even in the land of gay and beer, it was difficult to find a trans-friendly doctor. The only one I managed to find examined mostly prostitutes. Thus, I was also considered a prostitute (I once sat in the emergency room for two hours, surrounded by bleeding prostitutes, almost like in Breaking Bad). Then I heard that South Korea treats transsexuals very well, and immediately rushed there. But as soon as I got there, I realized that they were "trans-friendly" only towards trans women. Unlike the rest of the world, which simply ignores or kills us, they actually don't even believe in trans men. For some reason, Korean prostitutes wear men's clothes, so I learned the hard way who they might mistake us for on the streets in this country. The jokes that poured after me, I would not call funny.

The Czech Republic, where my fiance lived, was a real success for me. You will not be lynched here, you will not be beaten on the street, and the suicide rate is much lower here. People don't even yell at each other. In the first week of my life here I saw a homosexual couple holding hands on the train, and no one said anything to them. Everything is still expensive, because I have lived in the Czech Republic for only one year and am not yet a citizen of the country, but still life here is much cheaper than in North America. It's like leaving your terrible little town after graduating from high school and going to college in a big city.

5. Testosterone changes everything

Hormones can do a lot, and hormone therapy is often safer than surgery. But not everything is so rosy. I'm just getting ready to take hormones, but my fiance has been going through this procedure for a long time, and I can see how it is done. Once a month, you will be injected with a huge needle. Testosterone must be mixed with oil, and therefore the needle must be thick enough for this mixture to pass through. Thus, you stand with a giant needle sticking out of your buttocks for almost a minute, after which you are sent home, and the injection site will hurt for several more days. You probably think that simple drugs can do nothing more serious than the appearance of new strange hair or increase in muscle volume. But the changes are so amazing that if you saw them yourself and were told that this person did not undergo any operations, you would never believe it. Your entire body is being reconfigured. Your thighs and buttocks become less defined as fat migrates to your dream beer belly. The jawline becomes clearer, the neck is thicker, and the face becomes completely different. My fiance began to look like a completely different person, fortunately, also quite nice. But it's not just physical changes that happen. Transsexuals of both sexes who have undergone hormone therapy, because of the effect that different hormones have on the mind, are a treasure trove of information about the differences between men and women. Describing his experience with testosterone, one transman says frankly, "I felt like a monster." He completely stopped thinking of the women he met by chance as people. Pornographic thoughts and pictures immediately appeared in his imagination. That guy was using an unreasonably high dose, but most trans men who use testosterone agree that it increases libido and aggressiveness, and this can shock others.

6. You are invisible

Western culture has come a long way from portraying transgender people as villains or clowns. People still receive Oscars for this. But name at least one film that shows the life of a trance man. You say, "Guys don't cry"? Do you know how many reviews Brandon Tean has been called a masculine lesbian?

The Wikipedia page on transsexual characters in movies and TV lists five times more trans women than men. In fact, there are three trans women for every transman in life, which is very strange because there is no biological basis for this. In my experience, this is because many transmen simply choose not to identify themselves. It is much easier and more socially acceptable to identify as a masculine lesbian, because homophobia in our society is difficult to deal with. People tend to perceive masculine women much more easily than effeminate men. Transgender men are simply not visible in the public eye because they don't advertise themselves. And, as a consequence, it is impossible even to know how many we are, or create a community. This is a vicious circle of invisibility, similar to a snake biting its own tail and unable to see anything but it. That is why it is important for us to stop being afraid to openly declare to the world about our masculine nature.

The news that the stepfather of Kim Kardashian, 65-year-old Bruce Jenner, has changed his gender, recently, to put it mildly, surprised the world. For a week, his - or rather, her (Jenner's new name is Caitlyn) - Twitter (@Caitlyn_Jenner) has collected almost three million subscribers. “I'm a woman in every way,” former Olympic decathlon champion Bruce Jenner announced in an interview with Vanity Fair. Anna Leibovitz did the photographing of the newly-made woman. The resulting image on the cover of the magazine is the embodiment of Hollywood glamor of the 1950s: correct make up, white satin bodysuit, seductive shapes (Jenner had 4 breast sizes implanted). The public was divided into two camps: the tolerant part welcomed Jenner's decision, the more conservative part, clutching its head in horror.

People who felt the discrepancy between their biological sex and the so-called gender identity, however, have always existed: there are references to them in Ancient Egypt (15th century BC). Large-scale studies of this phenomenon have not been carried out. Among the currently relevant hypotheses about the causes: a combination of hormonal factors in the phase of intrauterine development, genetics and the influence of the social environment in early childhood. Be that as it may, today such people (they should not be confused with transvestites - those who get turned on by dressing up in clothes of the opposite sex, but no more) come out of the underground and rapidly master the cultural and socio-political space. There are a lot of examples. In the Spanish regional parliament, the famous actress and trans-model Carla Antonelli, a former man, has been sitting for several years. In the United States, Pennsylvania's chief physician has recently been appointed a transgender woman; the new HR manager in the Obama administration was also a male before.

In the fashion industry, people with unclear gender identities have become trendsetters. The tone was set a few years ago by the 23-year-old model of Serbo-Croatian origin Andrea (formerly Andrei) Pejic. The owner of an angelic androgynous appearance as a teenager conquered the catwalks, becoming one of the favorite models of Jean-Paul Gaultier and Marc Jacobs. Then she was with a man's passport - having put Pejic on the cover a couple of years ago, New York Magazine called him The Prettiest Boy in the World ("the prettiest boy in the world"). Last year, the mannequin's breasts grew - Andrei underwent gender reassignment surgery. Since then, his contracts have not diminished.

Transgender aesthetics and collections with a predominance of asexual, dimensionless, but at the same time quite provocative things are now at the forefront of fashion. Long-haired models, whose gender is difficult to determine, have been pacing at the recent shows of Raf Simons, Gucci, Heider Ackermann, Dries Van Noten. The face of the Redken advertising campaign is the muse of Riccardo Tisci (Givenchy) Lea T., a beautiful model of Brazilian-Italian descent, formerly Leandro Cerezo (she was the one who kissed Kate Moss on the cover of the androgynous fashion issue of Love magazine a couple of years ago). Last year, fashion photography guru Bruce Weber filmed an impressive black and white campaign for Barneys, featuring 17 transgender models.

It is possible that the term agender or genderless will eventually become the slogan of the current fashion decade. Brad Pitt and Jolie appeared at the 2014 BAFTA AWARDS wearing identical Saint Laurent tuxedos. Cara Delevingne, Kendall Jenner and even the feminine Irina Shayk periodically appear in the male form. The latter appeared on the catwalk in Paris in a rough jumpsuit - at the show of the Givenchy men's collection spring-summer 2016. Selfridges department store in London opened a department called #Agender, and the luxury online boutique Thecorner.com began selling the No Gender line. Rumor has it that the first transsexual will soon appear among the Victoria's Secret angels. The 28-year-old American model, TV presenter and burlesque star Carmen Carrera has the best chances.

Caitlyn Jenner pretended to be a man all her life, starting at the age of seven, when she first borrowed outfits from her mom's wardrobe. The fact that Bruce Jenner won gold in the decathlon at the Montreal Olympics in 1976 and then collected another bunch of medals did not diminish his internal conflict. At some point, he even started taking female hormones, but after meeting Chris Kardashian and quickly marrying her, he stopped. “Bruce ... always had to lie. He lived with it: every day he hid something, from morning to evening. Caitlyn has no secrets, I am free, ”Caitlin admits. The former athlete has already undergone hormone replacement therapy and painful facial plastics to acquire a neat Greek profile. Whether Jenner will undergo full gender reassignment surgery, she has not yet decided. We will, however, find out about this soon - from the Bruce-Caitlin reality show called I Am Cait. Sometimes it is enough for a transgender to make a "social transition" when a person asks friends and relatives to call him not Kolya, but Vika, for example. Or vice versa. Others drink hormones and go under the surgeon's knife. It takes years, sometimes a lifetime. Some then completely change their social circle, even the city and country, in order to keep the secret and avoid condemnation. “This is me. Trapped - I hate that word - a girl trapped in a boy's body. ... My brain is much more feminine than masculine. It's hard for people to understand, but that's my soul, ”complains Jenner. However, the vicissitudes of his gender transition are more than offset by millions in profits - primarily from the new reality show. As it turns out, in the era of super-publicity and the pursuit of sensations, transsexuality is also a hot commodity.

Transgender people and the accompanying transphobia phenomenon have recently been compared to the gay movement that gained momentum in the 1970s and 1980s. In tolerant California, three years ago, they passed a law that schoolchildren can choose which toilet they go to - M or F - in accordance with the gender to which they identify themselves. And if some teacher with conservative manners gets in the way, the parents go to court. This is what the family of six-year-old Koy Mathis did, when the baby refused to go to the urinal, and the school director literally closed his breast access to the ladies' room. The Civil Rights Commission eventually recognized the young transgender person's right to write with girls. The daughter of Angelina Jolie and Brad Pitt is also being diagnosed behind the scenes with “gender identity disorder” - the blonde Shiloh is a Disney princess, but her mother does not mind that the girl does not wear ruffles, loves stretched sweatshirts and skillfully scores goals. It's funny that at the Kids Choice Awards, Shilo became friends with the pampered Suri Cruz, a nine-year-old fashionista, and the American tabloids immediately squealed that in ten years we might see a new non-standard couple. In general, absolute bodily sincerity for many is now becoming a new way of self-affirmation. At the end of the summer, the Internet and social media blew up the Self-Evident Project, a photo project of 10,000 Americans, including many celebrities who are convinced that the sexual spectrum is too vast to be labeled, and that gender itself is an outdated template. One of the stars of this project is 16-year-old Lily-Rose Depp, the daughter of Depp and Paradis, who recently became the face of Chanel.

In the world, one of the first sex reassignment operations was carried out in 1952 - an American soldier became a woman. In our country, this was done a little later: in 1970, the Riga surgeon Viktor Kalnberzs was the first in the USSR to deceive nature and returned the spectacular 30-year-old brunette Inna (her last name is still kept secret) her psychological body. She left the doctor's office as Innocent - with a male reproductive system - and lived that way to a ripe old age. The story of this scandalous operation was declassified only last year, when Kalnberzs published his memoirs.

According to psychologists, already at the age of five years, with the help of tests, you can find out how a child defines his sexual role. Many Western doctors have recently called for considering transgenderness not as a mental illness, but as a natural feature. “Only parents can either make a child happy to become who he feels, or break him by making him play with the wrong toys,” said Dr. Jody Herman of The Williams Institute, an independent gender identity research organization. As proof, she cites chilling statistics: more than 40% of transgender people tried to commit suicide. However, in Russia the topic is officially hushed up. The main Russian trans-activist, Yana Kirei-Sitnikova (formerly Gleb), did not get a new “female” certificate from the passport office and left Russia altogether. Now he lives with his beloved in Strasbourg, where he receives a PhD in molecular informatics. From there, she maintains a blog in which she comments on recent laws on transgender law, and also meets with UN representatives on behalf of all transgender people in the former post-Soviet space. Just like the members of the Seff-Evident Project, she is convinced that it is high time to abolish the concept of gender. For this he fights.

But maybe soon transgender people will not shock anyone. We live in an era of narcissistic individualism, where self-expression has become the new religion. Plus, the world is one way or another moving towards parity, where gender boundaries are really gradually blurring, and any stereotypes, taboos and restrictions cease to play a decisive role. It is believed that women's emancipation became the catalyst in this process. And it was she who launched an unprecedented wave of tolerance in the world and opened up so many options for us that both men and women ... got a little confused. Many have gone astray, lost their bearings and, possibly, a sense of proportion. And some even lost themselves. But maybe everything is exactly the opposite? We are looking for ourselves, trying to understand and realize our true identity and life needs. Each - in its own way.

A new twist: a story from the life of a transgender

Julia and Roman (names have been changed) - at first glance, an ordinary family that brings up a young son. The only difference is that Roman used to be ... a woman. Yulia Sonina wrote down their unusual story.

Roman, web designer, 30

Change gender - don't get a tattoo. There is no such thing: "Oh, cool, I'll go do it!" Transsexualism is a medical diagnosis. Some people are born with a heart defect and some with gender dysphoria. This is when a person is uncomfortable in his body. I don't even remember when it all started. In early childhood, after all, you do not think what gender you are. But even then, it was obvious that my sister was a supergirl, and I got the roles of boys in all games. It happened so. I felt the first conscious discomfort in the fifth grade. For example, when it was necessary to put on a skirt, in the locker room, in the pool. Not that I had any complaints about my body. But the very fact that you have to be a girl — think in a certain way, move, want something girly — was unpleasant to me. I wanted to abstract from physiology and everything connected with it. I did it pretty well. I studied well. Graduated from school with a gold medal. I read a lot. I was friends with guys who, unlike me, went to discos, kissed girls, drank beer and smoked outside school.

I remember when my sister said: “Let's go buy you a skirt for prom,” I felt a terrible inner dissonance. We went and bought it, but I never put it on. As a girl, I wasn't very pretty at all. The chest is small. The figure is awkward. Short haircut. However, the way I look didn't bother me much. My sister and I became students, got carried away with music, started going to concerts. And then among the musicians they accidentally discovered one about whom it was completely incomprehensible - whether it was a woman or a man. He / she grew a beard and said all kinds of things. It turned out that the singer just had problems with hormones. But she introduced me to real trances. The more I learned about gender reassignment, the more I realized that this was exactly what I needed. For my sister, at that time the person closest to me, it was obvious that something was wrong with me. At some point, I asked her to talk to her mother. She, and then other relatives, got it right. They began to call me "Roman", as my friends called me for a long time. Only one person said, “Sorry. I cannot understand it. " No, no, no.

For a person who wants to change sex, there are several ways. Someone asks familiar trannies to get hormones and starts giving themselves injections at home. His voice is gradually breaking, his mustache begins to grow. He becomes like a guy, but lives with women's documents and breasts. But a man in a woman's dress most often looks bad and causes much more hostility than a woman dressed as a man. I have chosen the official path. Found a psychiatric clinical expert commission in St. Petersburg. It was then headed by an outstanding psychiatrist, one of the few people who are engaged in gender theory in our country. The person is meticulous, but correct, not a sadist. It should be so. Many trans people are insecure people. Therefore, a whole bunch of tests for mental health, adequacy have been invented, which have to be passed several times. The main question that you are asked can be conditionally formulated as follows: "What will we do if you suddenly decide tomorrow that you are a stool?" There are precedents when people at some point wanted to return everything back. Give a trial period. Like newlyweds before their wedding. I received a certificate that gave me the right to hormone therapy, gender reassignment surgery and change of documents in a year. I experienced euphoria - more than later, when I was already injecting hormones.

I have been on hormones for five years (they will have to be injected all my life) and have already started shaving for quite some time. So far, I have done only one operation - I removed the breast. The next step is the removal of internal female organs, and then phalloplasty. When it comes to sex drive, like my wife, I don’t get hung up on which sex partner is. Before the transition, I did not meet with a guy for long. And then I met Julia. She is smart, beautiful, we talked at night and love the same thing: movies, books, music. And each other. What else do you need to be happy?

Julia, producer, 29 years old

I have always been family-oriented and, for all my tolerance (I had a bisexual experience), I was still a man next to me. Roman, when we met, I perceived that. Although on paper he was still a woman then. I knew from the beginning that he was going to change sex. And all this did not shock me. If you see a person as a whole and you are interested with him, appearance and gender are not important. After several years of friendship, we started living together. When Roman proposed to me, I fell into a borderline state for three months, because I was not sure: does he really want to marry me or realize the possibilities of a new passport? Besides, I wanted children. There was no disagreement. We signed and began to find out what the options might be in this regard. The option that we found gives partners of the same sex the maximum degree of kinship. The mechanism is as follows. The novel stopped taking hormones for six months. They took an egg from him, did IVF and at the embryo stage they transferred it to me, as if I were a surrogate mother. Now our child is already six months old. Genetically, he is completely the son of his father - that is, Roman. The resemblance is obvious, although we were looking for a donor similar to me. We want more children in the future. After all, on the advice of a reproductive specialist, we fertilized and frozen several eggs at once. So it will be even easier further.

No matter how much you call yourself a woman, it won't make you a woman.

“Being a woman” is when you are born a female, when you are raised as a woman and treated as a woman, making you part of the female social class. Gender is not identity, just as race is not identity: both of these concepts mean social class... Woman is gender, female gender is a consequence of this fact in a patriarchal society. The social group "women" exists only because society divides people on the basis of gender. “Women” are united as a group in the same way that “blacks” are united as a group and in which blondes are not united as a group: skin color and gender are socially significant categories, but hair color is not.

If a young man from a wealthy family decides to live on the street for a month or two, without contacting his family in any way, without buying new clothes, can he claim at the end of the month that he knows what it is like to be a beggar?

No. Because he grew up in a wealthy family. He was raised in a completely different way from raising children in poor families; his experience of poverty is different from that of beggars; his outlook on his own future, his health, food, potential jobs and opportunities are all very different from what people who grew up in poor families go through.

Even a rich man who has become impoverished as a result of economic turmoil will not know what it means to be born into poverty.

If a white person masks his skin color well as a darker one, dyes his hair black and walks like this for several months, can he understand what it means to be black? No. Because he grew up in a society that perceived him as a white person and treated him accordingly. The life he knows is the life of a white man.

Now it is becoming known such a phenomenon as "violation of the integrity of the perception of one's own body" (also known as "trans-disability"). This is not just a toggle switch, it is becoming a popular topic in news and documentaries. Will a person with healthy legs understand what it is like to live with paralyzed limbs, having driven for a couple of hours or even days in a wheelchair? And if he really believes that his legs will "never" work? In this case, he understands what is paralysis?

A person who is born a man, raised as a man, is perceived by society as a man; a man who was only told in churches about the exploits of men and that the best woman on earth was a virgin; a person who has gone through school years without fear of getting pregnant and ridiculous lectures about menstruation; a person who is not called "hey boy" even if he is already in his twenties; a person who is considered competent by default - such a person cannot know what it means to be a woman. Because “being a woman” means not “thinking of yourself as a woman”, but “being born belonging to the class of people who are taught from infancy to always be beautiful, fragile, innocent and polite”. People in this class are tasked with preventing their own rape, in church they are told that their role model is a virgin mother, and in school they are taught to be like models from lingerie catalogs.

Transactivists argue that girls' childhood experiences don't matter. That their biological sex has nothing to do with their oppression. That simply declaring oneself a woman is enough to know the experiences and fears of people who have been treated like women all their lives, who have been imposed on women's social roles and responsibilities all their lives.

Women in all human societies are relegated to the position of sexual objects. Women's bodies are constantly being objectified everywhere.

Do you know what joke I come across from time to time on the Internet? “What is the name of the extra skin around the vagina? Woman".

That is, women are fucking holes.

Fuckholes and incubators are for conservatives who care more about fetuses than the people who carry them.

In fact, the vagina is a reproductive organ. Its function in the female body is to help create offspring. This organ is similar to a hole (and in fact it is a channel at all - approx. Mug_rug), because it is easier to transfer spermatozoa inside and facilitate the exit of a small person outside.

The female breast is also a reproductive organ: its only biological function is to feed babies.

These are not precious gifts that fall on the winners of the "sex lottery". This is a physical and social stress. The vagina bleeds every month, and if a child passes through it, it breaks thanks to indifferent male doctors who believe in control over nature. Women who use the biological function of the breast by feeding hungry children with it are forced to do so, huddled in the darkest corners, otherwise a scandal awaits them. Women in the twenty-first century are forced to fight for a basic right to decide for themselves how to use their own vagina or breasts.

Trans "women" don't get pregnant. They don't give birth to people with their vaginas. The sperm that gets into their vaginas flows down the vaginal wall constructed by other people because it doesn't lead anywhere. Their vaginas are constructed by humans. Their vaginas are male-designed fucking holes.

Women are born with vaginas that society relegates to fucking holes.

Trans "women" make fucking holes in their bodies and call them vaginas. Trans "women" go under the surgeon's knife to get hold of an additional hole in their body, into which something can be shoved. So here patriarchy is when any hole in the body, into which you can push something, is called a "vagina."

Society views various parts of the female body through the prism of male pleasure. Women's breasts are defined solely as a sex toy, funny skin bags for comfort (including on a computer screen), and like other sex toys, they are too indecent in any other setting. So it turns out that the very idea that women's breasts can be used to feed children, and not to excite men, causes disgust and outrage. Vaginas are constantly in need of improvement: for men, they are either too hairy, sometimes too wide, sometimes smelly, sometimes too dark. A pregnant woman, on the other hand, is a heavy burdensome burden.

Trans "women" take hormones and undergo plastic surgery to get breasts that are similar to those of a woman. It doesn't function like a woman's breasts, but it looks sexy. In fact, their breasts have nothing to do with women's breasts, they are just the embodiment of male fantasies: round bouncing boobs, big, identical and even. Some do surgery by turning their genitals into a hole for stuffing something inside. Outside, this hole should also look not like real female genitals, but like a male fantasy about them: small neat labia, a narrow opening.

Women's bodies in patriarchy are reduced to sexual objects. The female breast does not exist as an organ that can be fed to children, but as a sex toy for male arousal, which can be looked at or played with. Vaginas, according to them, are holes for fucking, not reproductive organs that can be used to conceive and have children. Well, from this point of view, trans "women" are real women: there is no difference in patriarchy.

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